DaanaApr 7, 20182 minBlast From the Past.Talk about a blast from the past (not sure why I’m using that phrase). Remember my FWB? The guy who I dated (I use that term in the...
DaanaAug 10, 20172 minReclaiming My Time: On Why I’m Not Attending My Class Reunion.I’m pretty proud of where I am 20 years later. And, I think I still look pretty good. That said, I will not be attending. And I am...
DaanaJul 2, 20172 minRelishing A Sister’s Misfortune.Sis, We Gotta Stop Letting Black Men Ruin Us – Crystal deGregory Ph.D. – Medium An open letter to black women who’ve listened to Jay-Z’s...
DaanaMay 31, 20173 minInadvertent Petty.[ An aside: my ex is a pretty private person, and doesn’t share his business on these interwebs, which means I really don’t run a serious...
DaanaApr 30, 20171 minMy Prom from Hell.My Prom From Hell: A Thread — D. (@retrosoul__) April 30, 2017 It was wild. And all things considered, I was very fortunate that it...
DaanaApr 10, 20173 minNo Pain, No Gain?Betty Wright strikes me as one of those aunties, waxing poetic about her experiences with men — schooling us young girls on what (and...
DaanaMar 1, 20172 minPetty on Reserve.Appropriation. Honestly, I don’t know who to credit for this image, but I don’t own it. Very fitting, though. So in my post yesterday, I...
DaanaFeb 28, 20172 minPrivilege To Be Petty.So the other day, I sent my ex a very blunt and (and in his view petty) text Now, I know it may seem petty, but I promise that there was...
DaanaDec 17, 20161 minClaiming It — Goodness in Year Four.“There are always and only two trains running. There is life and there is death. Each of us rides them both. To live life with dignity,...
DaanaDec 15, 20163 minAgency, Silence and Closure.“Wanna fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down.” – Toni Morrison (Song of Solomon) One of my friends tweeted this last...
DaanaDec 11, 20165 minSide Chick.I am not a relationship expert, nor do I want to be. I’m just a woman with a lot of life experience. I offer but one perspective. Let’s...
DaanaNov 27, 20163 minUnchecked Motives.After a heated argument with my ex today, he likened our “friendship” to an abusive relationship. While my initial thought was, “This man...
DaanaNov 25, 20164 minStaying Gold — Third Time’s the Charm.Stevie Wonder’s song Stay Gold always makes me happy. In the song, he sings about reflecting on a place and time when we were young, and...
DaanaNov 23, 20164 minStanding in the Light, Part I.I may lose some friends, associates, and respect over this, but I’ve got to, as Aunt Ester (Gem of the Ocean, August Wilson) suggested —...
DaanaNov 22, 20162 minREWIND: Kryptonite.So, I wrote this well over two years ago, in regards to the good old FWB (even after I knew he had involved himself with my ex-friend,...
DaanaNov 20, 20164 minThe World Owes You Nothing.“It means that no one else is living for you, my child. Because no one is you. Each person is living for himself; his own happiness is...
DaanaNov 19, 20163 minUnfinished Business.Do you remember the film, The Best Man (1999)? Taye Diggs’ character, “Harper Stewart” was writing a memoir recalling past experiences...
DaanaNov 18, 20161 minNo Room for Love.Why I involve myself with losers (criminals, unavailable men, serial cheaters, jerks — a combination of any of the aforementioned...
DaanaNov 17, 20162 minREWIND: Karma’s Revenge, Part II.This was written several months ago, but never shared publicly. There’s a lesson here, folks. The Universe works things out in its own...
DaanaNov 16, 20163 minContext, Part II (This Really Deserves a More Personal Title).This is a continuation of the abridged version of my pertinent relationship history. My second, and the most recent real relationship...